Somewhere along the way, I learned one of the most powerful lessons of my life: When I finally let go of that last thread I’d been clinging to — the one labeled “just keep pushing” — I didn’t fall apart… I was set free. In fact, it felt as though the universe let out a sigh of relief. Finally, she’s giving us space to work on her behalf.

Here’s what I’ve come to understand — and what I now teach: When you choose yourself first, everything changes. Not all at once. It’s subtle at first. A softening. A remembering.